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I have been told, for years, by many different mental health professionals to try saying affirmations to myself daily to help with my mental health disorders and self-esteem (which was pretty much non-existent). I have never really given it a try for longer than a week before. I felt so silly and stupid telling myself that I am beautiful when I did not believe it in the slightest. It was like I had this voice in the back of my head that would counter the affirmation and turn it into something negative such as; I am fat, I am ugly, I am dumb, etc. So, I gave up on trying affirmations.

One night, in early February 2023, I was feeling extremely hopeless, depressed, and suicidal. I started to text my best friend about how I was feeling after I had just self-harmed. The next day, my best friend stopped by and begged me to try saying affirmations, since she was worried about me, to myself every day and to set my first goal of keeping up with the affirmations for a month. She told me there were only three affirmations I needed to say to myself to start off.

I knew I was in a bad spot, mentally, and had to try something new since everything I was currently trying to help my mental health obviously wasn’t working. My best friend said that she had been using affirmations daily for a few months and that it was really starting to change her outlook on life. I agreed to give affirmations a real try this time around. I was so tired of hating myself and my life.

My best friend told me which three affirmations to say every day, several times a day. I have now been saying them for over two months. The first week or two I felt silly as all hell, but I got over feeling silly and even started to say these affirmations while looking at myself in a mirror. After the first month, I started to feel happier. I gained some self-esteem; which has been non-existent most of my life. And I also started to feel like there were people in my life that would care if something bad happened to me. I felt loved for the first time in a long time.

Now that I will be heading into my third month of saying these three things, I started to add more affirmations to my daily list. I wish I would have given affirmations a try the first time I was told by my therapist and psych doctor to try it out.

If you are curious to know what the three affirmations are; continue reading.

The Simple and Magical Three Affirmations Are:

I am Happy.

I am Beautiful.

I am Loved.

That is literally it. Say these three affirmations to yourself or even out loud randomly throughout the day. Examples would be: First thing in the morning when you wake up, before you go to bed, around meal times, if you work; then on your breaks. Sometimes I forget to say them when I am at work but as soon as it pops back into my head, I start saying them like a mantra. The same thing goes for when I am laying in bed before I go to sleep; I will repeat these three affirmations repeatedly in my head.

You really have to give affirmations a good try. If you feel silly, weird, or stupid for telling yourself that you are happy, you are loved, and that you are beautiful; just say it anyway because, in time, when you first start to no longer feel and think negatively when you say them; you’ll know you’ve gotten over feeling weird about saying affirmations to yourself.

If your thoughts counter the positive affirmations, just say them anyway because eventually, you will no longer counter them and turn them into something negative. That negativity will go away after you’ve been saying the affirmations daily for a length of time. The first 2-3 weeks might be the hardest. But once you get to the one-month mark, you will start to see small changes in how you feel about yourself and actually start to feel happier too.

I will even say these affirmations to myself when I am having a bad day. Bad days will eventually come to pass. Then when you have a good day, you may start to feel happier than you used to before you started the affirmation.

After your first month, you may start to add more affirmations to your list.

Some ideas are:

I am wealthy.

I am a good manager.

I am a great friend [or mother, sister, brother, father, cousin, aunt, uncle, etc.…]

I am beautiful inside and out.

I am losing weight.

I am healthy.

I am a giving person.

I am successful in my life.

I am successful in my career.

You can pretty much say anything that applies to you and your needs. Basically, according to the laws of attraction, you can say affirmations about how you want things to be in the future for yourself. Whatever you say, just make sure you start with, “I am…” and keep the affirmation positive and optimistic. Negative thinking and feeling can attract more negativity around you. But positivity attracts positivity in your life.

If you are feeling discontent in your life and you want to try something that can help you give your mental health a boost, then try out affirmations for yourself and keep at it. You can do this! I believe in you! If I was able to start thinking about certain things in a more positive light, then so can you!

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Side note for my readers:

Life gets complicated sometimes. Don’t give up hope that you CAN start to feel better about yourself and gain some self-esteem; if you are like me and have constant negative thoughts racing through your head; please give affirmations a fair try.

And always remember: You are Happy, You are Beautiful, and You are Loved!

Thank you for reading! I hope this post can make at least one person feel better…