🌈 Happy PRIDE Month 2019! 🌈
With yesterday, June 1st, 2019, kicking off Pride month I figured now was a better time than ever to create this post and let it all out there!
Not everyone knows this, but I am actually Bisexual. Yes, I also like women. I’ve dated women before. Just because I am in a long term relationship with a man does not mean that I am “straight.” I like the best of both worlds, I am 50/50 , and I honestly don’t care if anyone feels negatively about my sexual orientation. It’s part of who I am.
I would love to share this awesome coming out story with you all… but, to be honest, I don’t actually have one. Those who have asked me and that are close to me know that I am bisexual, even my boyfriend knows. (Should I add that he does not have one problem with it at all?!) I don’t hide it, but I also don’t announce it to everyone that I meet. I am not ashamed of who I am – regarding this matter – by any means.
Oops… I’m Out! And That’s Okay!
I recently realized – since I had forgotten – that in my book, My Bipolar Mind: You’re not alone, I mention my ex-girlfriend who passed away years ago when her liver shut down from her alcoholism. So, perhaps, in a way, I came out fully to the world in my book. That was not a typo. By this point in my life, I figured that 80% of the people I talk to know that I also like women; maybe even more than that.
Realizing I Liked Girls Too
I am not actually quite sure what age I started to realize that I liked girls too. However, I know for a fact that when I was about 14-years-old I started actively seeking a relationship with either men or women. At that age, I wasn’t as open as I am now though. Now, IDGAF who knows. Back then, however, I was worried what people what say or think of me. I was worried about offending people. I didn’t know how my mom would react. I was just a scared teenager with no courage. 🤷♀️
Looking back on it now, I wish I would have been open a lot more with my sexuality much sooner. I pretty much waited until my sister came out and I was like, “Hey, I am not the only one!” My mom was so understanding and loving that I wish I would have told her about me sooner. My mom doesn’t care who her children love as long as the person they love is treating them well. Love and be loved.
Why I Like Both Men & Women
I don’t see why we should put boundaries on who we love or fall for, or even for who we are attracted to. I am attracted to both men and women because of their mind, body, and soul – their heart and lifeforce – and not because they are a certain gender. I can’t help or control the fact that I am bisexual and like the best of both worlds anymore than a person can control the skin color they were born with.
It Doesn’t Matter Who You Love
It honestly shouldn’t matter to anyone else who you love. It doesn’t matter if you are a woman who loves other women, a man who loves other men, a man who loves women, a woman who loves men, or anything else! As long as you allow yourself to love and be loved, that should be all that matters. There is too much hate in the world, and it is such a shame. We need to keep fighting for equality in all aspects of love! (And women’s rights! But that is a topic for another day!)
Love who YOU Want to love and NOT who ANYONE ELSE thinks YOU should love.
Love should be spontaneous and not obligatory!
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Samantha is the author of "My Bipolar Mind: You're not alone," she is also a freelance writer, blogger, and mental health advocate who runs and manages her own mental health blog MyBipolarMind.com.