Feeling Emotional Pain

This is a post from a guest blogger who would like to remain anonymous. She has some very inspiring words about how to deal with hurt feelings and feeling pain. This is perfect for Managing Emotions Monday. I really enjoyed reading what she wrote, and I hope you will too. ♥

Feelings of hurt or anger can be some of the most difficult to face. We can feel so vulnerable, frightened, and powerless when these feelings appear. And these feelings may trigger memories of other, similar times when we felt powerless.

Sometimes, to gain a sense of control, we may punish the people around us, whether they are people we blame for these feelings or innocent bystanders. We may try to get even or we may manipulate behind people’s back‘s to gain a sense of power over the situation. These actions may give us a temporary feeling of satisfaction, but they only postpone facing our pain.

Feeling hurt does not have to be so frightening. We do not have to work so hard to avoid it. While hurt feelings aren’t as much fun as feeling happy, they are, still, just feelings. We can surrender to them, feel them, and go on. That does not mean we have to seek out hurt feelings or dwell unnecessarily on them. Emotional pain does not have to devastate us. We can sit still, feel the pain, figure out if there is something we need to do to take care of ourselves, and then go on with our life. We do not have to act in haste; we do not have to punish others to get control over our feelings.

We can begin sharing our hurt feelings with others. That brings relief and often healing to them and to us. Eventually, we learn a lesson that real power comes from allowing ourselves to be vulnerable enough to feel hurt. Real power comes from knowing we can take care of ourselves, even when we feel emotional pain. Real power comes when we stop holding others responsible for our pain, and we take responsibility for all our feelings.

-Anonymous